I haz a secret!
I love Power.
But not the power you’re thinking of. No, then again, I like that too!
But no I’m talking about the Starz drama, Power.
Here’s the lowdown on the show:
It appears James “Ghost” St. Patrick has it all — a drop-dead gorgeous wife, a stunning Manhattan penthouse, and the power and success that come with owning hot new nightclub Truth. But a closer look reveals a man living a double life.
When Ghost isn’t tending to his Fortune 500 business, he’s catering to clients of another operation: a drug empire that serves only the rich and influential. While loyal sidekick Tommy protects the cash-cow narcotics venture at all costs, Ghost’s new reality is using Truth as more than a front to launder money.
It’s a way out of the drug game and into a legitimate life with his family, even if everything he loves becomes unknowingly threatened.
I catch it weekly on Starz and I watch every episode at least 4 times. So I’m a little addicted. It replaced Sons of Anarchy and Empire. For now.
So A few weeks ago I caught Naturi Nauthton on Essence and they brought up a tricky subject.
Should A Married Woman Have Her Own Money?
What do you think? Should a married woman have her own stash?
My thoughts – I don’t agree with hiding money from your husband. But I think every adult woman should have her own bank account with her own money. And your husband should know about it.
I don’t agree with depending solely on another person as an adult to take care of my financial well being. Too much can and does go wrong in those scenarios and I’d rather know how to take care of myself financially than depend completely on someone else to do that for me.
If he gets up one morning and declares that it’s over and you have no credit, no bank account and haven’t had a job in 10 years – then what?
So it’s more about independence than it is hiding money to be deceitful.
I think that changes the game completely. Not only are you being honest that it’s there, but you’re not carrying around this secret stash “just in case”.
He should know, “just in case” you have your own stash, whether it’s because he acts up, he leaves or he passes away. You’ve covered all bases.
And I don’t think men should feel threatened about it. They should want to know that regardless of what they do, she’s already planned on being OK financially in any event. They should too! I wouldn’t want my husband to stick with me because I have a paycheck and he doesn’t.
On the surface we can say “but it means she doesn’t trust him”…
But what it’s really about is – life happens and/or people change. A man should never want a woman whose only reason to stay is finances. And a woman should never put herself in the position to be forced to make decisions based on her bank account vs what’s best for her. One example would be a woman staying in an abusive relationship because she has no financial means to leave and make it on her own.
When a man asks for a prenup, most applaud him for protecting his assets but a woman is more likely to be scorned for having a stash of cash that protects her financially should she need to make the jump.
Thoughts? Should married women have a secret stash of cash?
I agree, I think everyone should have their own stash. As
you say, anything can happen. My husband and I have a common account for shared
bills but other than that we keep separate accounts. I have never understood
why couples have one account and dump every bit of income earned in it but hey,
to each its own.
BTW, I can’t get enough of Power neither!
Another Power fan! Love it! LOL
I agree with shared accounts. My issue is depending on another adult to take care of me while having no way to support myself. You’re right tho – to each their own. I just wouldn’t do it. I’d have to have something for myself.
Yes, a married woman, and a married man, should absolutely have cash, but not be secretive about it. I agree with the various reasons stated above: anything could happen, or nothing could happen, and it’s best to be covered either way. I was saving a fund to cover six months of expenses before I got married, and I’m still saving it. At first my husband balked, thinking that I was saving for divorce. I agreed that divorce is one reason – I’m sure he won’t easily part with all that cash if things were to end badly down the road. But another reason is that I need to feel financially secure in the event that he were to pass away, or if I were to lose my job. Insurance and unemployment checks don’t get issued the next day, and in the meantime I have bills to pay.
More women need to think like this!
I agree!
Good for you!!
excellent article. I agree whole heartedly (spelling)….unfortunately I don’t have enuf to support myself should anything happen to hubs other than life insurance….
Are you doing anything to change that?