How many times have we thought about this? Self imposed (sometimes socially) time lines on motherhood, career, education and marriage?
I’ve always believed that women can have it all. Still do, just in staggered moderation. Lately, I have to admit though, going through my own struggles with this as I want it all and pretty determined t get it.
What does having it all mean to you? Do you have it? Are you content with where you are now in life?
To answer my own questions, I am for the most part content with my life as I’m in a pretty good place. I admit to being a career driven woman who has her sights set on high, knowing that I can’t fail. It’s a pretty strong drive right now and I just need to get certain things out of my system. This of course, is the source of my indecision around starting a family. Part of it has to do with my own issues around becoming a mother, the identity shift and timing ie becoming resentful around giving up my peak earning potential to have a baby.
Having it all in my world means a change in all of the above:
- Giving up on old childhood stuff and really moving forward to becoming the mother I want to be.
- The identity shift from being career driven, foot loose and fancy free to being a mom where my sole focus might become my child. Not sure Im ready or how I’d feel about that.
- Giving up my peak earning and career potential to have a child.
It would seem that these are all things I would just have to let go huh? I’m a control freak so I’m not sure how that’ll go down LOL
But, I might be on to something…ha!
What do you think? Do you think in order to have it all I have to give up and accept the above mentioned? Do you think having it all is a myth?
Thanks for tuning into my own brand of self imposed neurosis around this issue. Parts 2 and 3 to come this week.